BOOK REVIEW FOR
“NEVER GO BACK
TO THINGS YOU WILL
NEVER DO AGAIN”. By -Dr.Henry Cloud
Nowadays books
with titles like “What Should You Do To Succeed? “ Or “What Does People Who Had
Succeeded Did?” are now available in plenty in the bookshops. But this book
takes an opposite approach. It elaborates on things that successful people
“never” do. By avoid doing unwanted things you get more time to do useful
things. You should never keep on wasting time on the same thing which you have
already done enough times. *** ***
He also asks us
not to do things that go against our personality or basic character traits. If
you do that, one day or the other your original character will come out and it
will spoil everything. He also suggests not to waste time in trying to “convert”
people into successful persons. He tells just make one attempt to do that and if
that fails stop doing anything further.
The man who goes
to the bar in the early mornings, a person who never does things that is to be
done, an employee who always does not complete his work, a partner who can not
match with your skills and talents. For all the above persons, please don’t try
to change them more than once. He tells all repeated attempts to change the
nature of a person will always end up in failure. Then he tells that if one
really wants to succeed in life, one will have to earn the displeasure of at
least a few persons. If you want to keep everybody happy then you can do nothing
useful. He wants us to note the fact that a successful person is not liked by
everybody. Hence, there is no point in making “everybody” happy.
A person who runs
a hotel wants to expand it by changing to a new location. But he finds it
difficult to get a place for rent. After that he runs from pillar to post to get
a license for his hotel. Then the neighbours complain about the smoke coming out
of the hotel kitchen’s chimney. He faces all the challenges and runs the
business with determination. Finally he gets three times profit in the new
place. “Challenge does not give more pains. It is the path to success.”
The author tells
opportunities “neglect” people who “neglect” to sweat out and work hard. He asks
us to anticipate more sweating in the future path to success. He tells us not to
believe when anyone tells that he is as honest as Gandhi or as merciful as
Mother Teresa. Everyone have their own weaknesses. Try to search for really good
people, but also accept people who are a little imperfect.
Be always clear on
what you want to do in life. Chase away all petty problems like batting a
mosquito. Don’t get broke down by petty problems. He tells us not to ever try to
copy others. He adds it is wrong to try to become like Mr.X or Mr.Y. He warns us
that if our energy is spent in this direction, then it will become a total
waste.
A donkey should
not to try to learn singing. It is totally irrelevant to a donkey. It may get
angry on seeing the master and it may give him a kick. God did not create a
donkey to sing songs. Similarly, we should not try to copy or emulate others,
but try to be our true selves.
He further warns
us that we should never have a narrow mind. Our brain has an excellent capacity
to think for the future. If you do a job in a hurry with a temporary plan, you
will face failure. But if you work towards a long-term goal and have a
broad-mind, you will definitely succeed. He asks us to ask ourselves the below
given question often. “Where am I now? What is my present position?”
One basic
difference between successful persons and others is that successful persons
address the above question honestly. The author provokes us to
think “What is my role in the present situation”. Just
understanding the situation alone will not lead us to success. After
understanding it, you should suitably change things that need to be changed.
Only then you will succeed.
The invisible
sub-conscious mind is creating the visible outer life that we live. Leading a
very enjoyable inner (sub-conscious) life only will enable us to do certain
actions automatically. This will eventually lead us to success. He says that the
more we use the power of our sub-conscious mind, the more successful we will be.
Remember any outer factor can never succeed in changing our inner or
sub-conscious self. To put it in another way, you can not be “Jacky Chan” in
your inner life and “Sylvester Stallone” in our real life.
Your attitude
towards a work also decides what you are going to get from it. Remember even our
happiness is defined by what we think about yourself and not by any external
factor.
We very easily
choose our targets and methods to reach them. But we have no choice in declaring
whether we have succeeded or failed. If you read and try to follow the
strategies elaborated in this book by Dr.Henry Cloud, then you can very easily
reach the sweet fruit called “SUCCESS”.
Article written by
p.krishnakumar@jsb.ac.in
Courtesy :
Tamil-The.Hindu.14-Sept.2014.page.13 Book Review
(Translated from
Tamil to English by e3institute,
EZHILARASAN, SHEVAPET, SALEM, South
India)
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